There was a career intervention at my house last week.
My 13-year old approached me holding a print out of a job posting that I had left out. She was nervous and worried, thinking it was a job that I was applying for. Luba confronted me and asked if I was going to quit my business!
Now I love being an entrepreneur, but over the last 10 years, I’ve talked about returning to a more traditional, corporate job – either in fitness programming or career development. There are many positions that I’m qualified for and that I find interesting. Sometimes I see a posting that would be my dream job, and that’s incredibly exciting.
But whenever my daughters’ overhear me talking about getting a job, they instantly react negatively. They love that I love working in CareerFit Mom. And they’ve benefitted immensely by my entrepreneurism.
They know I’m already working in my dream job. I love the freedom and flexibility of my portfolio career. I have many different lines of income that make up my salary and fulfill me personally. New lines of income come into my portfolio like I launched my online fitness service in June, I recently joined Beautycounter as a consultant, and I’m developing my retreat business. My girls see how I learn and grow through these new opportunities. And I’m encouraging them to develop entrepreneurial skills, too.
So when Luba was anxious about me applying for the job she saw listed on the printout, I calmed her down and told her I was helping someone else prepare their resume and cover letter. The job just happened to be in one of my fields.
Our conversation started me thinking about how we influence our kid’s perception of money and work, just by how we talk about it at home. Whether we’re talking directly to our children, or not, they are sucking it all in.
The world of work is changing and we keep hearing about how the skills of today aren’t the skills of tomorrow. Artificial Intelligence and Machine Learning will be replacing many workers and new careers and new ways of working will emerge. As much as we want to prepare our kids with the right education and skills development, I think it actually starts with their outlook about work. The truth is, your kids’ perception about work is almost entirely influenced by you and your career.
Whatever you’re saying about your job, your leader, your direct reports, your company, your commute, and your clients, it’s all filling up their little heads and hearts.
Think about how your behaviour as it relates to work.
Are you energized or exhausted when you come home or pick them up for school or daycare? What messages are they learning about work when you’re drained and cranky from your day?
Are you complaining about people or circumstances at work? Complaining is an energetic match for more crap in your life. Problem-solving, or considering where someone else is coming from keeps you more neutral about the challenges you face at work. It starts to move you energetically to a place of possibility and ease, instead of frustration. Your little ones rely on you to be the role model when it comes to preserving through life’s challenges.
Do you hate your job? Do you work in a toxic environment? Is your commute killing you? Are you having a values conflict with your organization or the people you work with?
If that’s you, you need to make a change. Finding work you love that’s aligned with your values will bring so much positivity and wellbeing into your home. Your kids will benefit in the long term because they saw you make a career change that made you happier. They’ll know that you don’t have to work in an environment that is a grind or heartless.
Show your kids that your career is a big piece of your identity and that your identity is one of ease, flow, fulfillment, and financial abundance. It is possible. And when you step into that possibility, everyone in your household benefits.
I realized through this career intervention that my daughters are very lucky to have parents who love their work. They’re growing up with that expectation for themselves. Pat and I rarely complain about work. Sure, we have challenges and upsets, but we talk through how to overcome them. We’re so lucky that we found jobs that are well suited to us and continue to provide growth opportunities. That’s the future I want for my daughters, no matter what occupation they end up in.
There’s a long time to work and you can shift into something that’s a better fit for you. Something that will light you up because it doesn’t feel like work. Let that be your kids’ destiny, too by looking after yourself first.
In the meantime, be careful about what you think and say about work. Talk about what you’re going through in a way that is solutions-focused. Stop complaining and take action to make your career better. I’m here to help. Book a complimentary consult by clicking here.